With the average cost of a wedding in Australia sitting at over $35,000, getting the budget sorted from the start is crucial. There’s nothing worse than a debt hangover heading into a marriage, so it’s essential to be clear on financial responsibilities and roles from the beginning.
Table of Contents
- 1 Do Groomsmen Pay for the Bachelor Party?
- 2 The Politics Of Paying Your Way
- 3 Groomsmen Etiquette: Who Pays For What?
- 4 So who does pay for what?
- 5 Bottom Line
Do Groomsmen Pay for the Bachelor Party?
Alcohol and strippers often comprise the stereotypical bachelor party celebration of a groom’s final night as a free man. Bachelor parties also may entail all-weekend events that involve travelling, lodging and other expenses. While the best man typically arranges and plans the party, the financial burden should not fall on him alone. If you’re a groomsman helping the groom prepare for his big day, make sure to toss some of your cash into the bachelor party pot. Can I find hens ideas to match my taste? Absolutely! Magic Men has a variety of services and packages to offer.
Split It Equally
Before the bachelor party, the best man usually lets groomsmen know pertinent details such as the date and time, location, activities and the party cost. It’s typical for groomsmen to split the prices, so if the best man gives you an estimate of the upfront costs, like what he’s paid for food or rental space, be ready to contribute your share. If the party involves expenses that occur throughout the party like drinks, taxis and tips, find out what you owe once the party ends. If you can’t afford to pitch in, it might be best to hang up your groomsman tux and tell all involved that you simply can’t afford it. You might luck out, and in the spirit of the festivities, the others may cover your share of the expenses.
Pay For Bits
While one-night bachelor parties involving alcohol, food and other entertainment could cost groomsmen a few hundred bucks, more extravagant parties that take attendees away from the local scene for more than a night could easily top $1,000. If the bachelor party runs a full weekend, you may not be present for all the events or spend as much time at the party as some other attendees. If this is the case, you shouldn’t have to split everything evenly. Keep track of your activities and give the best man your share at the end of the weekend.
Pay For It All
If you’re a groomsman whose pockets are overflowing with funds, why not put those funds to fair use and foot the bill for the entire bachelor party? The best man and other groomsmen may balk at such an offer, but they also may appreciate the gesture and up your standing in the groomsmen community. If you make such a gesture, do so courteously and thoughtfully without throwing your financial weight in their faces. The last thing you want is for your fellow groomsmen to feel inferior because their wallets are not quite as fast as yours.
When The Groom Pays
The groom usually pays nothing for his bachelor party, although there’s an exception to that rule should the bachelor party take place out of town. If the bachelor party involves expenses such as airfare and hotel, you do not have an obligation to pay the groom’s way. In such a case, the groom will typically pay for his flight and lodging. If the best man and other groomsmen insist on covering all the groom’s expenses, including travel and accommodation, feel free to let them know that you think otherwise. However, be prepared to accept the majority opinion and contribute your share if you can.
The Politics Of Paying Your Way
Even when your friends insist, don’t let them pay for your destination bachelor party expenses. Not because paying your way is the right thing to do (though it is), but because it’s the politically wise thing to do.
OK, if your bachelor party is one night out, then it’s fair to let them pay for you. After all, what’s the price of a fancy dinner, several shots of Maker’s Mark, and maybe a lap dance or two between friends? But as soon as plane tickets and hotel suites start entering the conversation, it’s time to put your foot down and pay. We have an exclusive range of hens ideas Melbourne to help you with your entertainment needs.
Think of this as if you were a politician, and you’ll see there are plenty of reasons to pay your way at your bachelor party.
Politics 101: You’re Generating Good Will
Money is the chief anxiety of any wedding, both for you and your guests. Your groomsmen will already be putting on a brave face about all the cash your big event is costing them: why add to their anxiety? By relieving them of this extra financial burden, you’re showing generosity, responsibility and leadership.
Politics 202: You’re Setting The Narrative
At some point soon, the shoe will be on the other foot. You will be putting money towards the bachelor party of one of the guys about to throw yours. Basic etiquette demands reciprocity: if your groomsmen foot the bill for your entire bachelor-party experience, you’ll be expected to do the same for theirs.
That adds up, especially if you have a lot of friends who are throwing bachelor parties. But by establishing a precedent with your bachelor party, you’ll insulate yourself from having to layout a fortune every time one of them decides to get married.
Politics 303: You’re Strengthening Your Veto Power
He who controls the purse controls the party. This fundamental law of politics applies to the bachelor party as much as it does the wedding.
When the groom is contributing his full share to the festivities, he essentially has veto power over any event aspect. If he’s along for the ride on someone else’s tab, he’s a glorified plus-one.
Don’t want to go parasailing in tuxedo-themed Speedos? Your “yeah…no” will have more sway if you’re one of the people paying for it.
Politics 404: You’re Executing The Duties OF Your Office
In only a matter of days or weeks, you’ll be a married man. Aside from having a child, getting married is the chief sign that you and your wife are now, undeniably, adults. Here’s one thing adults do that kids don’t: they pay their way.
Groomsmen Etiquette: Who Pays For What?
Traditionally, the best man and the groomsmen throw the groom’s pre-wedding party and cover all costs involved. From golf days to surf trips to the classic boys’ nights out, there is a massive range of activities suited for any type of groom. The wedding party usually pays for the actions, entertainment, food, drinks and accommodation for themselves and the groom, while attendees cover their costs.
Accommodation the night before the wedding
If you want to spend the night before the wedding in a shared hotel suite with your buddies, it’s usually on you, as the groom, to cover the cost. It’s always nice to be in the same place on the wedding morning to suit up together and let the photographer do their thing. However, accommodation won’t be necessary if it’s a local wedding and you’re all geographically close.
If it’s a destination wedding, groomsmen (and their plus ones) will have already forked out accommodation for the duration of their stay, so the groom covering night-before costs is always a good thing.
Transportation to and from destination
This one’s usually only for weddings outside your home citForfor example, flights to Bali or travel to the Hunter Valley or interstate comes down to the groomsmen and wedding party to cover. Just like any other wedding guest, getting to the general destination is all on the groomsmen.
Grooms can’t buy their gifts, so this one falls fair and square on the groomsmen. However, if they’re already parting with lots of cash to attend your wedding, it’s more than acceptable to request no gifts from the groomsmen.
Wedding day transportation
Not to be confused with transportation to the geographical destination, wedding day transportation is on the groom to pay for. The beginning will be travel to the church or ceremony location, followed by a trip to the photo location than the reception venue. The last two usually also with the bride and bridesmaids.
Traditionally, groomsmen rent their suits (including tie, socks, and sometimes shoes) for the big day. If you’re financially able to, it’s OK for the groom to offer to pay for all or some of the suits, but be clear from the beginning. Tell groomsmen about the financial responsibility before they commit to the wedding party.
Everyone’s situation is different, and it’s a significant investment in finances, time and effort. As long as expectations are set early on, everyone will be cheering!
So who does pay for what?
Being asked to be at someone’s wedding party is such an honour. It can cement a relationship, or sometimes break one apart.
We’re here for the first scenario! We hear so many stories about bridesmaids or groomsmen falling out with a couple before the big day, and we don’t want that to happen to you.
Being honest and communicating with your friends and family is crucial to being able to celebrate together fully. Part of that comes down to wedding costs. Being honest about what you expect your wedding party to contribute to and being realistic about what you do and don’t want are vital areas to explore. To help you plan a perfect hens party, check out our packages for ladies night at Magic Men.
Managing wedding costs together
There are typically three different options when it comes to paying for items for your wedding party.
- One is for the couple to cover all of the costs.
- Another is for the wedding party to cover all the costs.
- And the third is for you to come to an agreement and split the costs.
The third option is generally the most popular with couples as it means you can agree on what you do and don’t want to contribute to. You can also work together on keeping the costs affordable for everyone.
If you’re at a wedding party, you can expect to spend between $500 and $1000 on that wedding depending on your relationship with the couple. It’s essential to have an honest conversation and set a budget that works for everyone in advance, particularly if you’re a couple who would like their bridal party costs to exceed $1000 each.
Bridesmaids dresses and groomsmen suits
Dresses and formalwear are the first challenges you’ll come across when it comes to who pays. It’s essential to recognise that everyone is at different stages of their lives and budgets. Your wedding party will be made up of your closest friends or family, so we know that you want to be considerate of them. Anyone at the wedding party should also be thoughtful of the couple who are getting married. They are planning the vision for their perfect day after all.
A dress, suit or suit hire priced under $200 is considered reasonable for the wedding party to pay. An item between $200 and $500 should generally begin a conversation over splitting the bill. If the couple has chosen formalwear that costs more than $500, they should offer to pay for it.
Other factors to consider include what style of dress or suit you are purchasing and whether the person in your wedding party can wear it again. You may have chosen something that you love that will never see the light of day after your big day!
Wedding shoes and accessories
Many couples will opt for a specific shoe style for their wedding day to match the rest of the wedding party and theme. The wedding party can generally cover footwear up to $150. If it costs between $150 and $300, you should have a conversation about splitting the bill. If the shoes cost more than $300, the couple should offer to pay.
We see more of a trend towards casual footwear when it comes to wedding shoes, making it easier for the wedding party and cost split. Some couples specify the colour of shoes and let their wedding party select something suitable that matches the theme. That way they can choose something they like and will wear again, therefore covering the costs.
Consider how the costs are adding up when it comes to the outfits for your day. If someone is spending $500 on a dress, then another $300 on shoes can become a bit steep. If those shoes are only $100, it’s suddenly more affordable. The same goes for accessories. Consider what you’d like your wedding party to wear and whether they’re cheap. The wedding party could cover anything under $50.
Hair and makeup
This is still a category reserved for brides and bridesmaids, despite more grooms opting for barbershop treatments or pampering ahead of their big day.
The couple will traditionally pay for hair and makeup for the bridal party. If you do want this cost covered it’s typically split with something else in the list. For instance, you might pay for the dress and shoes and have your bridesmaids pay for their hair and makeup.
Services like beauty treatments, waxing, or getting nails done before the day should typically be paid for by members of the wedding party.
If you’re not having a local wedding, then your wedding party will typically stay overnight for one or two nights. Which means there are accommodation costs involved. These costs should be covered by the couple getting married if it means the wedding party needs to stay the night before the wedding. The wedding party can cover the costs if they are paying the night of the wedding. This is an excellent way to split the bill and factor into plus ones or other guests needing accommodation.
Hens Nights and Bucks Parties
This is the one cost that is usually covered by the wedding party. Grooms and brides need not worry about the cost of their hens night, bucks party or joint celebration. However, it is up to them to choose an activity that isn’t going to break the bank for everyone!
Most celebrations typically have two parts covered by the wedding party and the guests attending the event. The wedding party can cover planning, decorations, deposits, games, transport and other details. Meals and drinks will then be covered by the guests who are attending. If you need to recuperate costs for some of the different aspects, you can add $10-$15 per head for each guest.
Guests shouldn’t be expected to spend more than $100-$150 on a hens night or bucks party. Having opt-in events where they can pay a lower price or higher price (e.g. $80 or $120) can be an excellent way to give people more choice. If you have a more expensive activity, make sure you chat with all guests about the price well in advance.
If your bachelor party involves plane fare, hotels, boat rentals or any other oversized ticket item, you need to pay your way. You and your closest guy friends will have a better time if you do.